Weight and dating
In the immortal words of Sweet Brown, ain't nobody got time for that.
Until you've achieved an unassailable state of self-love?
In the past, I would go out to social events with my friends but never had any males approach me.
Of course I assumed it was because of my physical appearance, but I always thought “oh well, their loss.” Now I go out with friends and I get bombarded by men, especially since I’m the only one in the group unattached.
A couple of years ago I gained 17 pounds due to a medical condition that altered my metabolism.
I still have a normal BMI and am not considered medically overweight, however I am heavier than what I consider appropriate for my frame.
If you're holding off on dating until you've lost the weight, bought better clothes, or are a brilliant future version of yourself, you've set the worst goal ever. You may think you'll be shinier, cooler, or more desirable in the future, but really what you're saying is that you don't think anyone could like you now. She was admittedly on the heavy side but had never kept it a secret or masked it in her online profile.
I reminded her that there is no set height and weight requirement here. Then, when the Future Perfect You -- ideal weight, great haircut, designer jeans -- steps out for the first time and gets rejected (which happens to EVERYONE, by the way), what then?
I’m 23 and have never even “talked” to a male let alone go out with one.
Being overweight made me very self-conscious physically and since no males ever showed interest in me, I never gave the effort to pursue.
Before I went up a couple of sizes, I was always able to date the men that were interesting to me. The only men who are interested in me now are the ones most women wouldn’t want to go out with.
I don’t feel I have been overly picky, but lately I can’t even seem to attract Joe Average.